Psychotherapy might be valuable as an insight-providing tool, but it often tends to avoid diving into the fundamental issue of identification without a deep experiential understanding of attachment, possibly garnered through Buddhist or Sufi practice. Even Freud acknowledged psychotherapy's limitations, recommending that alleviating suffering is more realistically accomplished by transforming "hysterical misery into common unhappiness" which equips people better to navigate life's challenges with a healthier mental approach.

As it delves into unconscious desires and the hidden obstacles obstructing our pursuit of happiness, psychotherapy often disregards the fact that the same aspirations designed to create happiness are saturated in craving, aversion and biased thinking, even within noble actions. Complete happiness eludes us until we realize the imperishable awareness woven under all experience – our true core that is free from suffering. Recognizing this realization alone symbolizes veritable happiness in whole scope.

Once prepared to transcend personal boundaries - the imaginary veil of 'me' - one must recognize that the perceiver of identity, the illusory I, believes in its separateness. By perpetually clinging to victim identity as a survival mechanism, we keep victim consciousness alive. Revealing ourselves is made possible by comprehending how our habitual misperceived narratives generate, perpetuate, and reinforce victim identity.

Until we take responsibility for every feeling and creation, whether positive or detrimental, as this profound comprehension compels us to, we cannot outsource our states of Being to outside circumstances. The truth about the cycle of abuse and victim-hood is that it thrives on avoidance of responsibility and honesty; we prefer the false comfort in delusion rather than exposing our fears and shortcomings. Escapism from reality can take many guises but can be ultimately traced back to denial.

Any act of identification stems from unconscious striving. As soon as we unconsciously resist fulfilling a deep desire, misery arises within us. Thus the creation of suffering itself lies within our subjective interpretations and misguided desires. All resistance constrains energy flow between who we are and what we deeply desire, resulting in disarrayed mental states filled with insecurities and perpetual conflict. Any emotional or spiritual 'blockage' can thus be recognised to result as a self-formation imposed out of psychological defensiveness and evasion of our deepest heart-felt desires hidden from consciousness. A reconnection then is needed between the person and their real passions.

Additionally, once we acknowledge and understand the unbroken continuity which pertains between us all due to attachment - and, it needs highlighting - the very same spiritual principles driving us to seek superficial solace also reside innately in every atom of our universe, then, through quiet introspection and observation, we will eventually recognize our oneness as no small realization. We are identical with everyone in essence but are clouded by our subconscious tendency to identify with egocentric self-view, thus producing separateness. In view of that Oneness, we are free to cultivate inner peace as a life attitude that connects the individual with our internal compassionate Self. This, undeniably, leads to our internal sanctuary devoid of any suffering.

All resistance construed on desires stems from craving. Unfulfilled desires, often unconscious but always latent, form dissonant psychological states, triggering the disquiet within us - when not acting upon these deeply ingrained desires, a malady rooted in guilt, low self-esteem and confusion unfolds to the very forefront of consciousness when repressed emotions rise: depression, anxiety and the like.

The following insights might be helpful in addressing the myriad layers of our suffering: First, while most of psychology focuses its gaze with painstaking efforts exclusively on relieving symptoms of the many distresses, it typically fails to expose their underlying existential root causes connected to identification based in attachment suffering, thereby perpetuating the cyclical loop of symptoms instead of rectifying core trauma triggers.

Indeed, the persistent adherence to identifying solely with the surface and temporary ego which constantly clings onto materialistic preoccupations, offers no definitive relief either and further inflates self-importance and thus adds turbulence to our psychological seas. Thus, the fundamental objective within the healing paradigm fundamentally needs to be revised and sharpened towards instilling Self-awareness to be in charge of our life in order to cease dwelling only on the external, superficial aspects of everything - that which the egoic purpose is to maintain the notion of separateness and its delusional belief in self autonomy.

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